Ten Things I've Learned While Dating an Entrepreneur
Can we stop pretending that entrepreneur's are a new species that need special treatment?
It's work. A job. And, in fact, from an economics perspective, small business ownership by those under 30 is at an all-time low.
10 Things I've Learned While Dating Somebody Without Balance in Their Life would be a more appropriate title for this post.
> Everyone says that they want to date someone driven" John said to me last night "but most people can't actually date someone with drive and ambition because they feel threatened by it."
This is a convenient way to justify one's inability to maintain healthy relationships and explain away past failed relationships, but most of the time it simply isn't true. It is entirely possible to be ambitious and driven while having interests outside of "work" and creating clear boundaries between one's professional pursuits and personal relationships. People who leave workaholics do so not because they are threatened by the workaholic's motivation to work but because they are incapable of contributing to a relationship.
I couldn't really work out if this was a parody or a cry for help. If it's not the former, I think it's pretty desperately sad.
The various statements about this person's partner having horrible life balance are unfounded at best. Yes, this article could point to poor life balance, but it could just as well point to a well oriented but clearly dedicated and passionate person.
While the behaviors may not be normal, there is a line between enabling someone by sacrificing your own needs and simply accepting that everyone is different in their passions, drives and hobbies.
This scenario is not limited to entrepreneurs and founders. The boyfriend described has a passion, is lucky enough to be getting paid to pursue said passion, and seems to keep it his highest priority. I currently 'know a guy' like that. He doesn't date.
I was also once a guy like that. It was only at that "me or your passion" point in the relationship that priorities were re-evaluated, and our relationship drastically improved for the both of us since. The choice doesn't have to be black and white as was presented between the quotes in the previous sentence, but the idea that it might be was enough to make me think more seriously on the matter.
If the author is happy taking a back seat to her partner's life, then so be it and good for her. The tone of the article, in my opinion, indicated otherwise.
It's not just entrepreneurs - working professionals who work long hours can overdo it. Pro tip: if it's Saturday night and you can't think of anything to talk about besides work, you are boring your partner and ruining your relationship.
"10 Things I Learned While Dating a Shitty Boyfriend"
They aren't able to converse about anything other than work. People should be more interesting than this. If there's nothing new to talk about ever then you need to do some activity together or spend more time reading or whatnot. I don't think anyone in my life could explain what I do better than 'codes some Internet stuff and data'... because I rarely talk about work. If people want to hear about your work, they will ask you and beg to hear more. Otherwise they really don't care.
> "when you just want to spend the day vegging out eating an entire can of Pringles"
A whole day?! Driven entrepreneurs like me can finish a can of pringles in 15 minutes.